There are times when people get married. It might be because of external pressure for some. There are some that did not want to get married at all. They do so because it expected or makes them feel safe. After all, they assume that is what other people want for them. It becomes a happy wedding buy a sad marriage. And this is considered by most okay. This guide talks about what kids need to know about divorce.
It important to know that you don’t fall in love with someone who is potential. Majority of people don’t always reach their potential. This could be because of inability or out of choice. Potential is something that is limiting. People look at what they see there and then. This is what everyone can see. This mistake has been made with ex boyfriends at some point in life. At that point you perceived that they had all the qualities you were looking for. You loved how they talked, walked but after getting to know them well, it just turns out to be another story.
Majority of people embrace the idea of getting married.
However, marriage can turn out to be tough even if it is healthy and still functional. The both of you might be doing everything right but you expect to meet rough patches. It is important to let your kids know that divorce doesn’t necessarily mean that any of you is doing something wrong. There are couples who encounter abuse. It could be because of miscommunication. Also, there could be irreconcilable differences. Divorce is based on grounds that are legit. At some point parents have to do what is right and stop beating themselves up. Regret is not necessary because at one point this person was your source of joy.
Divorce is devastating. However, staying in a marriage for the sake of your kids or other potential reasons can make one live in resentment, fear and failure of enjoying your life. There are times when couples can go for marriage counseling and it helps them. However, divorce can be the only choice left.
Couples are allowed to change their minds and do what is best for them. Despite the world being stubborn, each individual is fee to make choices. Parents need to tell their kids that they have not failed and some things are better left that way. Divorce just like change is always not smooth. However, it can hurt more to stay in a marriage you are not happy at all. You will keep thinking about the risks that you did not take and the freedom that you can get from being free. This is what can hurt the most which can be toxic.